Monday, September 29, 2008

Uplifting Funeral

As a kid I went to a lot of funerals. My mom was the Relief Society President* and our ward had a retirement community trailer court, so people died all the time and we kids had to come with mom to the funeral. But the people were all old.

When Wendell's cousin committed suicide at age 13, it was such a tremendous shock. The feeling of, we shouldn't be here, permeated the services. So I didn't really know what to expect when I went to Matt's funeral. Since he was a young father (36) of six children ages 11 to 18 months. He and his wife Crystal would have celebrated their 12 anniversary next month. I really thought that there might have been an air of despair. Not so.

There was such a peace at this meeting. IDispite his youth, it seemed like it was Matt's time to go. He had done all the Lord wanted him to do and had been called home.

Crystal is an amazingly strong woman. She and Matt were very righteous people, but without an inkling of piousness. They were just down to earth, regular people who were always trying to do the right thing.

I'm so glad that I went to the funeral. Crystal and I are about the same age, been married about the same length of time with about the same number of kids. So the death of her dear husband hit me hard, even though I haven't seen them in over 7 years. It was just so close to home, you know.

My prayers will continue to be with the Budge family, but it's nice to know that they're alright. That the Lord has given them peace.

*Mormon 101: Relief Society President is the leader of the women's organization of the congregation or ward.


Suzanne said...

I'm sorry for your friend's family. She's got a tough road ahead. Just be there for her.

Jennifer @ Fruit of My Hands said...

I am so sorry.

A friend of ours committed at 14, and it was very very hard on the family. Your family will be in my prayers.

Tara Rickards said...

That's terrible. I had no idea. The name sounded so familiar. I looked at the link and his brother is in our ward.

I just hate to even imagine what that would be like.

Annalise said...

Matt's parents are very good friends with my parents, so we knew them a bit growing up. My parents were at the funeral and told me how wonderful it was. Sounds like it was amazing!