We got a new Relief Society President several months ago. Since she'd been serving in Canada where her husband was Mission President for the last 3 years, she decided that it would behoove the Relief Society Presidency to go around and get to know some of the sisters. I was on the list.
So shortly after Beck was born the RS Presidency came for a visit. We had a lovely chat at the end of which they asked me if I had any questions. "Will you have a nursery for Enrichment meeting?" I wondered.
"No," came the quick reply of the counselor over Enrichment night. "If we did a Super Saturday* or something like that, then yes, but for regular Enrichment night no."
"OK," I said, "I was just wondering."
As they left, they handed me a paper. "This is to fill out about you and your interests. Don't be shy about your talents!" one of the counselors encouraged. They told me when they'd be back to pick the paper up and cheerfully left. The final question on the paper asked, "What can we do to help you?"
Normally I'd leave a question like that blank. After all, I'm self-reliant. But a light bulb turned on. I wrote, "It would help me if you would have a nursery for Enrichment meeting. I don't think you need to have any nursery for the optional mid-week activities, but for Enrichment it would be very helpful. Wendell works late every Wednesday, so I would have to pay $10-$15 to go to Enrichment, and sometimes it's just not worth the money it would cost me."
There was an Enrichment meeting coming up in January--a talent show and the RS President picked up my paper just in time. Surely, now that she knew what help I needed there would be a nursery! But the talent night came and went without one, so I didn't attend.
I think that my absences at these meetings have been noticed. In fact, I've been asked to sing with a group for the next meeting. "Will there be a nursery?" I asked the Enrichment board member who called me. "Wow. Um, I've never thought of that. We should look into that," she stuttered.
"Yea," I said trying to make my case, "Wendell has to work until at least 8:00 every Wednesday and he burns on Thursday, which means he works from open until close, so it would be really helpful...."
She cut me off, "Hey, the Young Women** won't be having an activity that night so, why don't you call one of them? That would be easiest."
So, although I never actually agreed to participate, she is dropping by music for me to learn it.
Feel free to call me on it, if I'm wrong, but the church manual+ says that there should be a nursery for Enrichment meetings. There are admittedly not many young mothers in my ward, but even if I'm the only one who needs it, shouldn't there be a nursery? I mean why should it cost me $15 to go to a non-optional RS meeting, when it's not costing anyone else? And just to vent, why bother asking what you can do to help me and then not do anything about it?
(*Mormon 101: Super Saturday--half day Enrichment meeting usually focused on a variety of craft activities.
**Young Women: Girls between the ages of 12-18. They meet during the third block of church and have weekly activities.
+ Church Manual: To make sure that the Church programs are run the same everywhere in the world, each leader is supplied with a manual about their callings and instructions from the Church Leadership in Salt Lake City about how they want the particular group to function.)