Tuesday, January 05, 2021

A Year of Self-Care: The List

 We spent Monday night with a family activity geared toward goals, which gave me the perfect opportunity to organize my list and I'm so excited about my upcoming Year of Self-Care! Without further ado here are the twelve ways I'm going to nourish myself in 2021!

January: Sleep

February: Movement

March: Fruits and Veggies

April: Simple Pleasures

May: Feeling Full

June: Novelty

July: Flavor

August: Order

September: Quiet

October: Spirit

November: Emotions

December: Connection

In Happiness Project style, I will be tracking and writing about how I'm doing on my self-care odyssey.  The goal is to build month upon month. So I'm starting with sleep and the goal is that in October, November, December, sleep is still a priority. I'm hoping to make some of these thing habitual so that each month I can put the former month on autopilot and put my focus on the new way to take care of myself. 

What do you think about self-care? What would be on your list if you spent a year caring for yourself? 

Sunday, January 03, 2021

A Year of Self-Care

 

I've been a fan of Gretchen Rubin and her Happiness Project from the moment the book made its way into my hands.  (Although, for my first read through, I was slightly less enthusiastic than I would later be largely because I was not having a very good year. Sorry, Gretchen.) 

Still, I've long been mesmerized by year-long projects and figured this would be the year to tackle one.  

My original ideas were based on satisfying cravings, but not the I've-got-to-get-a-milkshake-kind. The *real* kind.  Where your body or your spirit literally craves something it needs, but you're not giving it.  For me, the number one on my list: Sleep.

So I jotted down sleep and I also jotted other things that I crave, but often don't give myself (think adequate fruits and veggies, as much movement as makes me happy, etc.). Then I started to think about things that are emotional or spiritual in nature that I also crave and don't do as good a job at satisfying as I wish I did. I pulled Wendell into the decisioning making process volleying ideas back and forth and jotting down anything that rang true.  

In the end, I solidified a list of 12 "cravings".  But I hated the name cravings. Even though I CRAVE these things, it seems like a word that could be easily misunderstood. What else could describe satisfying all these itches, aches--these deep longings for what's really best for me? It hit me. Self-care.  This is self-care.  To take care of your deepest needs, the ones most likely to be over-looked: that's self-care. 

Thus a Year of Self-care was born. I haven't as yet organized which month will follow what, except for one thing. I'm starting with sleep. 


Wednesday, September 23, 2020

The Myth of Panic

While my thesis isn't complete (it's just really getting started), I have completed all my course work for a graduate degree in Sociology, so I hope you can grant me the leeway of calling myself a sociologist.   I spent an entire semester studying the sociology of disaster and as we've settled into the COVID way of life, I wish to give some sociological framework to our current state of disaster.

First, let me begin with disaster framework.  Disasters and myths are closely intertwined. One of the biggest myths when it comes to disasters is the myth of panic.  This myth is believed by public officials and perhaps by even the public generally. The myth is: when a disaster is approaching people will panic.  Once people panic, they will take irrational and unsafe steps and must be protected from themselves by giving them as little information as possible. 

The First Reaction: Disbelief

Overwhelmingly, in disaster research and accompanying sociological studies, not only do people not panic--they don't respond at all.

  • Sirens warn of a flood, and a young father rolls over in bed ignoring the sound. (Arkansas River Flood of 1965)
  • A woman asks a police officer what theater he's playing at after he's been yelling on the bullhorn that residents have 5-15 minutes to escape a fifteen foot high wall of water. (South Platte River Flood 1965)
  • The radio station screams warnings of a dam break and 3-4 men, believing the warning is an overreaction, continue loading furniture and get caught in the torrent and drown. (Teton Dam Disaster 1976). 

Studies show that the initial reaction of the majority of the public in the face of disaster is "disbelief, denial and reinterpretation to reduce or eliminate the threat potential" (Drabek 2013:70). Like the woman asking the police officer what theater he's playing at, people have creative ways of trying to make sense of what is happening so that they do not have to believe that they are experiencing a disaster.

But people *do* panic at times, right?

The short answer is Yes. And No.  People will panic, but studies show that it takes a long time and is preceded by relatively calm, reasonable responses once there's an understanding that a disaster is taking place.  Renown disaster research, Henry Quarantelli, gives a three step process that leads to panic. 

Step 1: Individuals must have a perception of possible entrapment. 
Step 2: Individuals must sense powerlessness; there is nothing they can do to escape. 
Step 3: Individuals must have a feeling of social isolation of sole dependency upon themselves in a crisis. 

Any disaster can have one or more of these aspects, but only people who are experiencing all three panic. 

Someone who jumps from a top floor of a hotel in a fire is a perfect example. This person feels trapped, powerless, and they can only depend on themselves.  Only then do they panic and jump. 

Overcoming Disbelief

The key to correct responding to a disaster is working to overcome disbelief. What overcomes disbelief? Consistent correct information. 

Before Hurricane Katrina hit, there were many people who believed that New Orleans levees could not take the pounding and hold.  But this information was not widely circulated. In fact, the city was so caviler about the whole thing, that they day before it hit, the busses are still driving around on the regular routines.  All of those with the financial means to leave and a place to stay, left.  But instead of bussing the families of low-income neighborhoods--in the most risk for destruction--the busses were still just driving around as if everything was normal. There wasn't consistent correct information. 

In the Teton Dam disaster, which I studied at length, several days before the dam broke leaders knew they were in trouble.  The dam was made of earth and parts were caving in.  For days.  If they had overcome their own disbelief and evacuated the area beneath the dam, there would have been no fatalities. But they persisted in their disbelief.  The dam couldn't actually break, could it? One radio station had heard there were problems at the dam and the owner left his son in charge and drove over to look at the dam. When he got there, he was appalled at what he saw. He radioed (with a CB radio) his son and demanded to be put on the radio.  He began describing what he saw.  He ended up reporting the entire dam collapse giving families who were listening to his station precious time to pack up and get to higher ground. But there were two radio stations servicing the area. Those on the other station or those who checked the other station remained in disbelief.  If this was this big, wouldn't both stations be reporting it? For those who remained in disbelief, their warning became a knock on the door from someone at the sheriff's department telling them they had 5-10 minutes to escape.


Recent Application

A friend of a friend challenged me on the myth of panic by asserting, "Do you not remember the great toilet paper scare?" The empty grocery store shelves are not evidence of panic. It's evidence of preparation.  When people believe that a disaster is imminent, they want to take action.  It they do not have a clear consistent message about how to prepare, they will do something. 

If we apply this to COVID-19, we see (as we do in many disasters) a lack of leadership.  Evidence shows that leaders knew this was deadly, but publicly downplayed the seriousness.  This was supposed to help people not panic.  But people aren't stupid.  By the time President Trump is explaining the COVID-19 will  eventually just "go away," we were slammed with news stories from China on people being locked in their apartments for 50+ days.  So the people took action.  If I have to be locked in my house for 50+ days, what do I need? What would I most not like to run out of? Thus, the run on toilet paper. But this isn't evidence of a panic; it's evidence of action.  This is pretty clear-headed decision making given the information people had. 

In countries like Taiwan, where the people understood the importance of masks and they received very clear with instructions of what do, they weren't having runs on stores.  Clear concise information is the antidote. But you must--MUST--trust the people.